Hello to you all.
I hope I have come to the right place and that someone will understand my situation and provide me with some advice and support.
I met my current partner 7 years ago having spilt with my husband. I had a son with my ex and started a life with my new partner, whom was fun and a nice distraction from my past life. He got on particularly well with my 3 year old at this time and they enjoyed a very close relationship from the start.
After about a year of being together and moving in, I stated to realise that my partner had an addiction to weed, I knew he had participated in a smoke with his friends which to me wasn't a problem at the time, as I had no idea to what extent this addiction was to be. Things started to show when he didnt have anything to smoke. The phone calls trying to pick up the anger and frustration and of course the money spent on it.
I suffered 2 miscarriages and finally fell pregnant with our daughter 3 years ago. I know some people reading will be asking why I wanted to have a baby with this man, however, anyone who has lived with a addict of this nature will know that it is like living with a jekyl and hyde character and my son grew so attached to him in the first year, it was something I thought I can work on, I am naturally a character that doesn't like to give up and likes to see the best in everyone.
So why I am here? Having tried to move to a different country to start a fresh life together and something I thought we could work through, of course it didn't work out, he couldn't score and insisted we came home after a month, The site he works on has regular dealers so this is easily accessable to him. I've spent the last 6 months finding us a home again and trying to build a life for us as a family.
He has tried to cut down as so to speak, however, after this affecting my whole life, whether we can go and eat, who we can socialise with, all built around where he can have a joint, he's anger has started to get out of control in front of my kids, something I cannot tolerate for obvious reasons. I have had to give him the ultimatum I never thought I would which is the weed or his family...
We are on day 2, last night myself and the children had to shut ourselves in the bedroom together, as he started to kick off about silly things again.
I don't want to leave my house, I've worked hard for it. I don't know what to do or say to hep him and most of all I don't want to lose my family. My kids have to come first but I want a happy life with us all together.
Sorry if this sounds muddled, there is alot more to this story of course, however I needed to start somewhere,
If anyone can help me through this with advice I would be so very grateful.