I need advice on how to help my partner with his Cannabis addiction

[claire1983]

Can somebody please give me advice i'm at the point where if things don't change i will kick him out. My partner of 2years ago has a bad addiction to cannabis. when we lived in our own homes i never realised just how bad he actually was because i wasn't with him 24/7, he was always so loving.. A year ago he gave up his flat to move in with me but that's when i saw a different person (he lost his job 6months into the relationship). Items of jewellery started disappearing, money would go missing but i put it down to me being a little dizzy and thought nothing of it. However he started going out for 7hours at a time but never questioned him as im not a jealous person... it turns out he was cheating and thats when i went through his things and i found endless payday loan letters, receipts for my jewellery he had pawned... i confronted him but now it's got worse! he is taking money from my bank when im asleep, he is being aggressive verbally (he tells me im a stupid ugly b*****d, tells me id better get in the f*****g house) basically trying to control me! i wont allow that to happen though.. for the last few weeks he's been getting really bed to the point where i feared he would hit me. he cant see his problem all he says is i have not had any since yesterday so i can't have a problem his dealer is laying him on daily (lay on- taking the cannabis and paying him back at a later date) he's even stolen off his own mother/ grandma and cousin (sold their wedding rings an so on) if he has to go a day without it then he kicks off over everything. the problem is he WONT accept he's got a problem :'(

someone please tell me how i can make him see what he's doing to me and himself. i have considered setting up cameras to show him how he behaves.

[eddiered]

He has to be willing to change in order to receive help. I would suggest talking to him about checking out a 12 step based program such as Marijuana Anonymous. My experience though is that if a loved one is not willing to change then there is a tough road ahead. Unfortunately sometimes we have to move on.

[Unregistered]

Hello!

This is purely my perspective. I do not think he deserves you at all. If he steals, cheats and calls you ugly names, I doubt he can contribute to your growth - neither financially, spiritually and socially.

I would suggest that you forgive him and leave him.