Hello there. I came to this forum because I thought reading about other people's struggles with marijuana addiction might help me gain perspective about my partner's addiction. He has tried to quit several times, but also has depression, which is one of his many reasons for using the drug. Although I don't want to change him, and realize he must seek treatment on his own, I am currently having difficulty telling him how I feel when he uses weed. He can be very defensive and at other times clearly wants to overcome, but has also tried various treatment options and is very stubborn. The last time I tried to ask him not to talk about his drug use around me, he became very defensive. I am attending Al-Anon meetings because of my family history and trying to take care of myself, and I am trying to be accepting of him, but I also fear for his safety and am afraid that one day he will drop out of school. I know this is not my problem, but as I care for my partner, and I enjoy our time together, I am not sure how to tell him about my feelings and talk to him about recovery options without sounding preachy. What should I do?