Help! My partner is addicted to weed and I'm not sure what to do

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Hello there. I came to this forum because I thought reading about other people's struggles with marijuana addiction might help me gain perspective about my partner's addiction. He has tried to quit several times, but also has depression, which is one of his many reasons for using the drug. Although I don't want to change him, and realize he must seek treatment on his own, I am currently having difficulty telling him how I feel when he uses weed. He can be very defensive and at other times clearly wants to overcome, but has also tried various treatment options and is very stubborn. The last time I tried to ask him not to talk about his drug use around me, he became very defensive. I am attending Al-Anon meetings because of my family history and trying to take care of myself, and I am trying to be accepting of him, but I also fear for his safety and am afraid that one day he will drop out of school. I know this is not my problem, but as I care for my partner, and I enjoy our time together, I am not sure how to tell him about my feelings and talk to him about recovery options without sounding preachy. What should I do?

[robinl555]

Dear Guest,
There was nothing any one could have said to make me quit.
It's a type of drug that allows you to function and doesn't cause short term drama. Some people can consume it and never really have problems. It depends on whether a person is an addict or not.
If they are, it eventually becomes a problem. "Using to live and living to use." Only they know whether or not they are and what to do about it. I feel that any pressure from you will only cause a rift in your relationship.
There is a pamphlet in NA called, "Am I an Addict?" You can get it online. Just Google it, it's available and can be downloaded. You could ask your partner to take the quiz when they are alone, and leave it at that. Sometimes that quiz can open someones eyes, if there is a problem.
Good luck

[BFB]

Yeah the quiz can sometimes be a good one. It’s so tough it’s like the saying, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

All the best,