Meeting your partner's friends

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I am in a situation where I am starting to meet my boyfriend's friends. We get along just fine but when his friends come over I get quiet and tongue-tied. I get quiet and awkward. I just don't know how to be social with them. What should I do?

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Your boyfriend must know of your problem, right? Ask him to only invite his friends over one at a time until you have become accustomed to them. I'm sure he can do that for you.

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Your boyfriend must know of your problem, right? Ask him to only invite his friends over one at a time until you have become accustomed to them. I'm sure he can do that for you.

My problem is that he does know and he does only invite them over when I say it's okay and one or two at a time. It's still tough for me, one-on-one even. I don't know what to do anymore.

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I have this same issue. Are you in any sort of treatment or therapy for your social anxiety? I have found that since I started taking medication for my social anxiety I am doing much better handling situations where I need to entertain people.

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You don't have to sit down and talk to the friends of your boyfriend. Don't force yourself to be friends with them. Greet them when they arrive then do something else when his friends are there and they will understand.

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You don't have to sit down and talk to the friends of your boyfriend. Don't force yourself to be friends with them. Greet them when they arrive then do something else when his friends are there and they will understand.

I don't think people generally will understand. I think they will often see it as rude. It's hard when they are invited over to do something like eat dinner. You can't just disappear into the other room during dinner.